You are getting married and paying for it yourselves. Instead of more things for the house, let your guests put something toward the day: the venue, the catering, the rings or the honeymoon, with the quote attached and the date on it.
Free to create and free to send.
The big costs of a wedding each come with a date: the venue balance, the caterer's final payment, the rings, the honeymoon flights. Pick the one you would most like help with and name it.
A single named cost, with the vendor's quote behind it, gives guests something real to be part of.
Nadia and Theo are getting married on June 14th and paying for it themselves. As they put it, they would rather have help with the day than more things for the house.
They have already paid the venue's deposit. The balance is due March 1st, and the venue releases the date if it isn't paid. Their request names that balance, with the venue's quote attached, and it went out by text and email to family and to the friends on their guest list.
A honeymoon fund works the same way. Name the flights or the stay and attach the booking confirmation, and guests can see the destination and the dates their contribution goes toward.
If you are asking in place of gifts, say so plainly on the request. For the words themselves, see how to ask for money instead of gifts.
Only people with the link can open it, and the two of you choose which guests receive it, by text or email.
| What you keep | The entire amount of every contribution. |
| When it arrives | Once your bank is connected, each contribution reaches it in 2-3 business days. |
| How you send it | By text or email, to the people you choose, with photos and a video if you want them to see the situation rather than just read about it. You decide who to send it to. It's never listed on A Better Gift, and it stays out of search results unless you choose to share it publicly. |
Start with the quote or the booking confirmation: the venue's name, the wedding date, the balance still owed and the deposit you have already paid.
Tell guests what you are planning and why the date matters, and add a video of the two of you if you like.
Guests and family give by card without making an account, and each of them is emailed a receipt.
Stripe checks the identity of whoever starts the fund, and every payout lands in that person's own account. Once your bank is connected, each contribution reaches it in 2-3 business days, with no total to reach first, and the fund stays open to guests after the goal is met.
Once you are married, record a short video. Every guest who gave receives it by email, along with anyone whose invitation went out by email.
Requests start at $500: the venue balance, the catering, the rings or the honeymoon flights, shared by the people who will be there.
"I'm starting a fund toward a wedding for two people I care about, in place of gifts." A friend, a sister or a parent can set it up with the couple's names on it. Whoever starts it is the one paid, which is why it belongs with the person writing the check to the venue.
Nothing to create a request. Nothing to send it. And nothing comes out of what people give you: you receive the entire amount.
